When the man you married turns out to be someone else

Ang hirap mag-asawa sa panahon ngayon...
Ang hirap mag-asawa ngayon dahil maraming lalakeng bonjing, irresponsable, tamad, walang pangarap, walang plano sa pamilya, hindi alam ang responsibilidad bilang padre de pamilya. Kaya ang babae ang papasan sa lahat ng pagkukulang pero kapalit ang kanyang kagandahan at kasiyahan. Pagtapos anakan ng madami, iiwan.
Nakakalungkot na nag-aambag na nga financially, babae pa rin ang gagawa ng gawaing bahay, mag-aalaga sa mga anak, magseserbisyo sa kanyang mister at sa family planning. Hindi alam ng lalake na maraming nagbabago sa katawan ng isang babae sa pag pipills, IUD, implant, patch, ligate... Tapos expect pa rin ng lalake na dapay maganda pa rin at fresh ang kanilang misis.
Tapos Kung sino pa ang hindi financially stable, sila pa malakas magpadami ng anak.
At kung sino pa yung pinagsisilbihan at minamahal ng totoo sila pa nagloloko...
Asan na ang "tulungan?"
Asan na ang provider husbands?
Asan na ang yung marunong sa family planning? Asan na ang mga responsableng lalake?
Asan na ang mapagmahal na mga tatay?
Asan na ang mga "knight and shining armor?"
Paunti na ng paunti sila dahil imbes pangaralan ang mga kalalakihan, babae ang inaalipusta sa pagkakaroon ng high standards.
Kaya masisisi mo ba na dumadami ang strong independent woman, single, single mom, furrmommies, high standards, mapili at hindi na martir?

 
Words By: Jamerisse Chames (Tita Charot)
Posted by: Nanay Talks

You can see a guy's character even during the friendship and courstship stage, which is why you shouldn't rush things and give them the slice of heaven until they put a ring on your finger.

The dating stage is a time to truly get to know each other’s values, principles, and character. Ask the right questions; don't just flirt or have someone to accompany you. Learn from the wise counsel of couples whose marriage you admire. Read books and listen to relationship podcasts. These will help you spot red flags and look for green flags.

Above all, work on becoming the best version of yourself so you attract the quality man you prefer. Pray for your love life if marriage is your goal.

Posted on 09/10/24, based on this original post.

Why women complain more about their jobs

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Women complain more about work than men do because women in general are not made for a 9-5 job but men are.

Men are like the Sun, they have a 24hr cycle. Hustling and providing (especially if they have a family) give them purpose.

Women on the other hand are like the Moon. We are not always full. There are times we want to slow things down. Most of all, for those who are mothers there is a reason why there is a mom guilt because it is our natural instinct to nurture our children. That means being present for them. For fathers their nurturing is through providing and protecting.

I am grateful for the first wave of feminism that allowed women to have a choice outside of the home. However the way the economy is designed now, most households need two income. It disadvantages the women so much because of our soft feminine nature.

As for me, I loved my job in the Office of the President, but I love my situation now even better. As a housewife, I don’t have to wake up early and commute and report to a boss. I cook for my husband and I make our home a beautiful place which I enjoy so much. It is truly a privilege so I will enjoy it now while I can.